Relationships are like plants that need to be fed and watered daily in order to keep them healthy and allow them to flourish. Unfortunately when a break ups happens, it causes anxiety and frustration that can lead you to behave irrationally. If you are involved in a relationship that breaks up, you may be thinking you want to get back at the ex but is this really the best step to take? One of the most influential ways that you can actually get back at the ex will make you “yourself” again and give you the independence to look at things rationally again. You may then decide whether it really would be better to move on to new pastures. However, the following tactics may also repair the relationship by showing your ex how important you are and were to them.
So not only are these 5 tips to get back at the ex but they are also excellent methods for getting your ex back as well.
5. Get back at the ex by being strong
No one needs the needy, and this saying applies very well when it comes to broken up relationships. If you are begging him to take you back and pleading that you cannot live without him then stop this now! You may feel this but exhibiting the behavior of someone who is feeling desperate is not a good move. Would your ex want to be with such a desperate, depressed individual. I think not. Let your ex think that you have moved on just fine without them by acting strong and moving on. When you’ve moved on, your ex will realize that they have not.
4. Get back at the ex by cutting any communication
Although this may appear counterintuitive when your goal is to rekindle things, it is one of the most important steps to back at your ex or to get your ex back. Take a break from your ex, enjoy the space to reflect on things and let him or her stew for a little while without any contact. This will allow your ex to clear his or her mind and miss you their life.
3. Get back at the ex by not being forceful
Get back at the ex by not being forceful with your ex, demanding that they move out, or pick their things up by a certain date. Be flexible, be a listener and a sympathizer. Be flexible. Your ex will be surprised when they see this side of you, and it may inspire them to build the lines of communication that were lacking when the breakup came into play.
2. Get back at the ex by smiling
This is no time for you to be alone, drowning your sorrows in the bottom of a glass or crying over old photos. Call your friends, see your family and allow them to support you. Did you know that smiling actually made you feel happy? Go out, look good and have fun. This may not mean you need to date, or even pay attention to the opposite sex, but you do need to be getting out and enjoying life again. Not only will this be therapeutic for you, but it will also help convince your ex that they lost a gem. We all want what we can’t have and I expect that your ex would be no different.
1. Get back at your ex by simply being yourself
There was a really good reason why you and your ex had a relationship to begin with, so go back to being yourself and let your ex remember why they loved you in the first place. This renewed self perception of your own self will surely rub off on your ex as well.
If you are disciplined and consistent in applying the above tactics, you will soon find yourself in a win-win situation. Take him or her back or move on. As a strong, independent, self-assured person, the choice is now entirely yours! The world is your oyster!
Article by: Dorothy Jennings
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